Social comparison

I'm currently on social hiatus for awhile. I mean, I'm still using my social medias but I'm too trying my very best to lessen the usage of them. I even pause of posting any post or story on Instagram, for awhile.. I quit my Twitter a year ago so I no longer scrolling Twitter for hours. Regarding my Facebook? I used it only for minutes and I'm off. Honestly, for these past two years, I realised how social medias could be really toxic for me. And I know I need to do something.

I read a post about social comparison on Facebook last week and it hits the home. Social medias really encourage me to compare my ordinary life with others. People said, don't trust anything on the social medias as people only portray happiness, laughter and all good things that they want to share where we do not actually know what goes behind the curtain, the happiness that they show as well as the laughters that they illustrate That is the reality that we need to swallow. Sometimes, reality is not as good as what we portray in the social medias. 

By putting a gap or a distance with social medias helps me a lot. Social medias have make me feel insecure with myself. I feel like I am not good enough. I feel like my life is not incredible like others. I don't have tons of make-ups to play on. I don't have money to travel around the world and share it with people. I don't even get bunch of beautiful outfits for ootd. Don't get me wrong. I am so happy to see so many laughters and joy and happiness and beautiful smiles on the Instagram. I do believe that everyone has their own rights to post what they want. Everyone has different means of showing that but it's just me ; that cannot stop compare and compare and compare that make me feel small in this beautiful world to live in. Comparing has been so toxic so I need a pause. Take a deep breath and live the moment without social medias. I'm still working on it. It's not as easy as I thought. I do slipped sometimes but it's okay. It's a baby step, insyaAllah.

If it happens for you to be in the same situation like me. You may try this way -- pause your life on your social medias for awhile. Take a hiatus. Put a little gap between you and your social medias and live your reality moments to the fullest. I know reality can be hurtful sometimes , buuuuut at least, it'd be less hurtful when you're not comparing your life with other. Little do you know that comparison could kill you slowly right? You don't have to compare your life with others because everyone is given with different rezq. You don't have to join the bandwagon just to fit in into the society. Hence, you're you and you're good enough, always. 

Make duaa' for me, everyone. I don't share with everyone even my loved ones on how I deal with this feeling because I know I can handle it. No one could really help me except me and Allah Taala. May Allah make it easy for me, for you and for us, always. We can do it! Stop comparing and whining and start living, surely Allah will give us more. 

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May Allah make us among those who're gratitude.

Hugs,

Fatin N.